A guest blog by Jorey Tessier
Fear has a bad wrap. I can remember attaching "I can't do that or I'm not doing that" because I was fearful. When in fact stepping into something that scares you allows for a lot of growth.
I'd like you to think of a time where you were scared to do something, but you did anyways (like the rebel you are). Now that you've thought of something think about the outcome. Was it a positive experience? a negative experience? Whether it be positive or negative, the most important part is that you learnt something.
It's only human to be fearful. Maybe you get butterflies in your stomach, or a pit in your throat, but regardless of the physical signs of fear, you have to step in to fear and then past it. The physical signs of fear is just a product of your thoughts that YOU created.
So now that you know YOU have created the things your fearful of, the question is "well, how do I get rid of these fearful thoughts that I've created"? The answer; it takes time. Just like Rome wasn't built in a day, the thoughts you've created along the lines of fear won't dissipate into thin air. You need to take time with fear, you need to examine it. If fear was an actually place, you need to step right in to it Bring a notepad and pen, and start with answering the question: "What experience led me to be this fearful".
Now think of a time where fear got the best of you, the time where you didn't do something because you were scared to do it. Write it down. I can tell you the one thing I've learnt when I don't step into fear is I have these "what if" moments. The moments where you look back and picture your life as if you stepped in to fear. So why not have these "what if" moments at the time of fear? Why not take that negative experience, and rather then letting fear get the best of you, picture yourself moving into fear. What is learnt?
Throughout the last year I've come to notice that I'd rather learn from my experiences of stepping into fear then have the "what if" moments. Regardless of how fearful I am I always tell myself "The learning experience will always outweigh the what if moments".
I've spent the last ten years of my life living in fear. The fear of failure, the fear of not being good enough and the fear of loosing someone close to me. The thing is, all those things are inevitable. I had "failed" over half a billion times, I had surrounded myself with people that I could never be good enough for, and I had lost someone that, at the time, meant the world to me.
Now, at the age of 22 I find myself stepping into fear in any give"fearful" situation, and I couldn't be happier with the outcome. I have made new relationships and have surrounded myself with people who love and support me, made new relationships. I've also decided I wanted to write a series of children's books, to help children help themselves. To believe in themselves.
I've stepped into fear and have launch a crowdfunding campaign, because I choose to no longer have the thought of "what if". Visit my Campaign and my website for more information.
Remember "The learning experience will always outweigh the what if moments"